Ilyon Chronicle Fans need to find a way to hug Jace till he stops hating himself. #SamarasPeril #Jayrin #amreading #Ilyon w/ @jayelknight
— Leah E. Good (@LeahEGood) April 28, 2016
The Hurting Hero
It’s no secret that I’m a complete pushover when it comes to mistreated people (real and fictional). My brother read Resistance before me. When I started it, he told me he already knew who my favorite character would be–Jace. He was right.
The sympathy that fictional characters stir in me has played a large role in shaping my passions. As a twelve-year-old who spent the majority of the summer with her nose in a book, my thoughts and pretend games often revolved around how I would help the characters in my latest story–the lonely orphan, the bullied school kid, the frightened immigrant, the ill-treated slave.
Imagination Grows Up
People often think their imaginations dry up as they transition to adulthood, but maybe they just mature with us. Obviously my brain hasn’t stopped fantasizing over helping fictional people (it’s an author thing). However, I can now use abstract thinking to move that inspiration into the real world.
Jace spends much of Samara’s Peril hurting. He sinks into depression. He battles loneliness. His past haunts him. Jace is fictional, but his struggles are not.
Fictional Spark. Real Action.
I love how persistent Kyrin and Rayad are in loving Jace. Even when he pushes them away and causes them pain, they refuse to let him struggle alone. I love them as characters because of the way they care for others.
What can we do when we close the last page, return to our bedroom from a land of fantasy, and think with a happy sigh, “I want to hug Jace. I want to be like Kyrin and Rayad.”? Just ask yourself, “Who do I know who is depressed, anxious, lonely, scared? How can I love that person?”
A Few Ideas
Kyrin nodded and wiped her cheeks as she rose. “Come on. I know it’s hard, but you must eat. You need the strength.” She held out her hand.
Jace gazed at it a moment, and then took it, the warmth and connection like a lifeline to his battered heart. She helped him up and did not let go for a long moment before turning and leading the way downstairs.
Loving doesn’t have to be extravagant or difficult. It doesn’t have to achieve want we want it to (more on that in a moment). It’s all about being aware, attentive, and genuine. Love tells people, “You are not invisible. You are not just part of the crowd. I see you as a unique individual–made in the image of God–and it is my joy to invest moments of my life into yours.”
If you’re at a loss for how to reach out, here are some quick ideas.
- Send a note. Handwritten letters are always special (especially to older people), but if penmanship is not your forte or your schedule barely allows you to breathe, don’t despair. A quick email to say, “I’m thinking of you” or to ask, “How can I pray for you?” is sure to brighten anyone’s day.
- Listen. At a missionary conference I recently attended, one missionary lady said that missionary kids and their families crave for people to listen to them. She said that the lack of shared commonality makes many people uncomfortable with simply listening, but their quickness to interrupt can make missionary families keenly aware of their own struggle to fit in. The art of listening is a wonderful way to show you care.
- Spend Time Together. Nothing reinforces loneliness like watching other people rush around with “things to do and people to see,” while not having anyone to rush with or to. Sometimes the best gift is a phone call, an invitation to come over to play board games, or an hour spent hovering over two cups of coffee that would have been cheaper to make at home.
- Send a Package. This is one of my favorite things (both to send and receive). There’s something about receiving a random package full of goodies that creates a sense of wonder. Several friends and I once figured out how many love languages a letter or packages speaks to. A package obviously touches a person who feels loved through receiving gifts. The time put into into preparing it speaks to a person who is loved through quality time. The servant’s heart behind (and perhaps practical items in) the package can warm the heart of a person who is loved through acts of service. The words in a note and the personalization of the package shows affection to the person loved through words of affirmation. If you want to stretch it to include all five love languages, you could even say that the tangible nature of a letter and package is the closest thing you can get to physical touch without being there in person.
Only God Can
One of Kyrin’s deepest pains is that she can’t get through to Jace. She doesn’t want him to hurt, but her love can’t penetrate his despair. In the same way, we may not be able to help our hurting friends to the extent we want to. One of my friends wrote the following quote into a book she’s working on…
“No amount of sermons, books, … or conversations can heal a tormented soul – only God can.” #WIPaj #depression w/ @amanda_beguerie
— Leah E. Good (@LeahEGood) April 25, 2016
As I mentioned above, love doesn’t have to achieve what we want it to. Results shouldn’t determine our behavior. Our role is to be obedient to God‘s calling–which includes courageously loving those around us. He is the only one with the power to heal souls, and He is mighty to save. Which brings me to a final way to help.
- Pray. God is the only one who can give true healing, so bring the lonely, depressed, and anxious to Him in prayer.
Can you think of anyone you know who has needs similar to those of a fictional character you wish you could help? Can you add more practical ways to show love to my list?
P.S. The graphic for this post has subtle relevance for readers very familiar with Jace’s story. Any idea what it is?
12 Replies to “How to Help the Hurting (Lessons from Samara’s Peril)”
This is a great post Leah, I really enjoyed it! Thank you for posting it :).
Hmm … is the graphic a subtle reference to the bird Jace had in Half Blood?
I’m so glad, Savannah! 😀
And yes. It is!
This is a wonderful post! I love how you pointed out that loving doesn’t have to be some huge thing. Sometimes just sharing time or a kind word means everything. 🙂
Also, this line reminds me of one of my recent posts: “Results shouldn’t determine our behavior. Our role is to be obedient to God‘s calling–which includes courageously loving those around us.” (My post is here: https://todwellandneverleave.wordpress.com/2016/05/09/i-cannot-do-anything/)
That bird has got to be Strune…despite its lack of jay-like qualities. 😉
Wow! Our two posts definitely complement each other.
Hence the “subtle” reference. 😉 Yes … I thought it was fun to use bird picture because of Strune.
Ahhh. That’s why you said subtle. I was wondering why. 😛
Yeah, and Amanda B. posted something very similar that week as well, I think…
I know Amanda B. has posted similar stuff. Can’t remember exactly when, though.
Again, thank you so much for using Ilyon Chronicles as an example for this post! 🙂
It was a joy to write! I love it when books have solid, organic themes like this.
I love reading about what you’ve learned from books, Leah! Seriously, posts like this are some of my favorites.
I was going to comment on the bird picture before I realized it had a story! It’s so cute.
We called my younger sister “Sparrow” before she came home, while we weren’t allowed to share her Chinese name, because of the verse about God’s eye being on the sparrow. So I have a soft spot for birds. 🙂
I’m glad! They’re my personal favorite posts, and I’m hoping to make them more of a trademark thing here. 🙂
Yes! I remember seeing that on your blog and thinking it was a perfect only pseudonym. 🙂
That would be neat! I haven’t seen posts like this around a lot, so they could become a trademark thing!